Come again? A brief look at semen fetishes
Recently, I was sent an email by one of my regular blog readers saying that there were “two obvious” topics” that I had not covered in my writings so far. The first one was paedophilia (which I have mentioned in passing but have never devotes a whole article to) and the second one was on semen fetish. I’m not going to go into my reasons why I have yet to devote a blog to the topic of paedophilia but the topic of ‘semen fetish’ was honestly not something that had crossed my mind. The email I was sent pointed out that my blog had covered paraphilias and fetishes concerning almost every other bodily fluid (i.e., urine, faeces, blood, menstrual blood, saliva, tears, breast milk, snot, phlegm, vomit, pus and earwax) “apart from the most obvious – namely semen”. Therefore, today’s blog looks ‘semen fetish’ although I know of no academic research or clinical studies on the topic (so not a lot of material to work with).
There is a lot of talk on the internet about almost mythical status that semen has been afforded. This is typified by a story I came across while researching this blog. In April 2010, the BBC reported the case of an Israeli man – Nissim Aharon – who was jailed for 10 years after tricking five women of various ages into various sexual acts (including rape and sodomy) by claiming that his semen was “holy and had healing powers”. Aharon pretended to be a holy rabbi and other authority figures (such as working for Mossad, the Israeli intelligence agency) and claimed to the unsuspecting women that his “holiness” could be passed to those who touched him physically, cleansing their bodies. He was eventually arrested in August 2009. A statement by the Israeli Justice Ministry reported that:
“Over many years [Aharon] presented himself as a righteous man, as a saint with healing powers, who exploited the naïvity of women and teenage girls, while carrying out appalling sexual acts and obtaining large sums of money by fraud. He would claim to be a rabbi, and impersonate figures in authority who would then refer women and teenage girls to himself. He would give these people different explanations: among others, that a holy scent comes from him, and that his semen is a holy fluid, which by contact could heal body and soul”.
Another seemingly relevant topic that I found online in relation to semen fetish was talk on various sexual forums about the love of ‘bukkake’ and ‘gokkun’ in pornographic films. I’m aware that some of you reading this will be well aware of these semen-related sexual acts but for the benefit of those who have no idea what I am talking about, I feel duty bound to tell you (but please be warned that my descriptions are sexually explicit).
Bukkake is a sexual act (most commonly seen in hard core pornographic films) where a group of men all simultaneously ejaculate over a women or man. Original bukkake videos are Japanese in origin and date back to the advent of videos in the 1980s. However, bukkake videos (while still arguably a minority market) have been made for both European and American audiences (with an increasing number of such films made for the gay market). The Wikipedia entry on bukkake claims that the sexual act involves “the implied or overt humiliation of the person ejaculated upon” because typically the receiving person is a passive recipient and not sexually stimulated. Some commentators have pointed out that the recipients in Japanese films tend to be much more passive and submissive than the recipients in American films. Feminist campaigner Gail Dines says the act of bukkake “marks the woman as used goods”, conveys a sense of ownership and is “one of the most degrading acts in porn”. Other reactions to bukkake were summarized in the Wikipedia entry:
“A number of authors have described bukkake as premised on humiliation. Forensic psychologist Karen Fanklin has described bukkake as symbolic group rape, characterising its primary purpose as the humiliation, degradation and objectification of women. Lisa Jean Moore and Juliana Weissbein view the use of ejaculation in bukkake as part of a humiliation ritual, noting that it generally does not involve any of the female participants experiencing orgasm”.
Gokkun is also a sexual act that is Japanese in origin and is where a man or woman consumes the semen of one or more men from a drinking receptacle (e.g., cups, glasses, beakers, etc.). The Wikipedia entry on gokkun claims that as the makers of hard-core pornography attempt to outdo each other, the number of men participating in gokkun videos has increased to as many as 140 in American films and 200 on Japanese films.
While there is much written about bukkake, references to semen fetish appear to be rare. The following extract from a self-confessed semen fetishist is one of a few that I have come across online. I chose the following quote because of the level of reflective introspection at the end of the quote. (Again, I also need to point out that the quote is sexually explicit):
“I have come to terms with the fact that I have a semen fetish. This manifests itself in many ways. Obviously, it is important in my sex life. My current girlfriend is quite open-minded, so she doesn’t have a problem with facials and swallowing. She is also open to some semen play, for example drinking it from a spoon or a wine glass. I have dozens of other semen-related fantasies which I want to try out too…Another manifestation of this fetish is my taste in porn. It’s almost exclusively semen-related movies that I watch because they are the biggest turn on for me. I mostly watch bukkake, gokkun and regular facial movies…I know that I’ll probably be heckled as being gay or whatever, but I don’t mind. The fact is that guys don’t turn me on, but girls do. Perhaps the fact that I like to see girls covered in sperm is more to do with my own desire for women to accept my own semen. I’ve thought that through a lot and it seems likely. Humans tend to associate the face with the identity. And I think on some level, men associate their semen with their personal manhood and identity. To have a girl let you shoot semen onto her face is a symbolic act of acceptance of your identity. There is almost certainly a domination aspect to the act too”
One online article on semen entitled ‘A Modern Craving’ talked about “semen addiction”, “semen fetish” and those “obsessed” with semen. The article claimed it was written to “raise issue and bring to the floor the concept of semen addiction”. Without any apparent empirical support the article claimed that:
“In order to relate with semen addiction, it’s important to understand the mentality of those obsessed. Semen addiction is not the pleasure of having your lover swallow your semen following oral sex, nor is it simple pleasure from pornography involving it. Instead, it is a very real sexual necessity for semen, be it digestion, foreplay or a combination of both. Why those who crave semen do so is widely a mystery. The taste, while enjoyable for some, seems not so important as the act, the eroticism, involved in swallowing semen from a man’s sexual organ. In addition, semen fetishes are not by any means limited to a single gender. While it’s debatable of which group is more outspoken of their semen obsession, it’s not such with reference to the fact they can develop in anyone; from homosexual males to heterosexual females to even heterosexual males, to a lesser extent. The insatiable desire for semen is often so unrelated to ordinary sexual addiction that while it’s possible for someone with the condition to enjoy sex without semen, the true climax of the experience can often be better represented as the reception of semen from one’s lover than as the orgasm of his or herself”
As I noted above, there is almost no empirical research on semen fetish, and the “evidence” I have collated in this blog is (at best) anecdotal. The fetish may well exist, but compared to other bodily fluid fetishes, semen fetish appears to be either much more rare or just much less reported both online and in academic journals. Finally, by my reckoning, the only bodily fluids I have left to write about are sweat, bile, and vaginal secretions.
Dr Mark Griffiths, Professor of Gambling Studies, International Gaming Research Unit, Nottingham Trent University, Nottingham, UK
Further reading
BBC News (2010). Israel jails man for ‘holy semen’ sex abuse. April 26. Located at: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/middle_east/8644637.stm
Kuro5hin (2002). A modern craving. August 5. Located at: http://www.kuro5hin.org/story/2002/8/5/71044/01543
Wikipedia (2012). Bukkake. Located at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bukkake
Wikipedia (2012). Gokkun. Located at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gokkun
Posted on May 3, 2013, in Case Studies, Compulsion, Obsession, Paraphilia, Psychology, Sex, Sex addiction and tagged Bodily fluid fetish, Bukkake, Gokkun, Semen addiction, Semen fetish, Semen obsession, Sexual domination, Sexual fetish, Sexual humiliation, Sexual masochism, Sexual paraphilia, Sexual sadism. Bookmark the permalink. 14 Comments.
drmarkgriffiths 
I love the idea of lots and lots of semen, but it’s a kink that goes hand in hand with my macrophilia, so the fantasy of gallons and gallons of semen generally comes from giant cocks and is very much a humiliation/domination thing for me (as AFAB recipient).
I have had a sperm craving since I was a teenager and find nothing wrong with it at all. As a gay male I have had many interactions. I think more research should be done on this subject.
This article was very interesting for me, especially since I’ve never attempted to read actual literature pertaining to this subject before. As a heterosexual male its a touchy subject to talk about with others so I’ve mostly kept it to myself, but I’ve been turned on by semen pretty much since puberty. It started with a fascination with the “money shot” at the end of pornographic films, but over the course of 15 or so years my preference has shifted from bukkake to becoming almost frustratingly specific, leading to long searches for videos showing women playing with and “showing” semen, particularly moving it around in their mouths. I suspect its less about dominance for me(as I’ve pretty much lost interest in bukakke films), and more related to the actual texture of the stuff. I like to think I’m a fairly normal person otherwise, and have had several good sexual relationships without feeling overly compelled to introduce my fetish.
Now I get those feelings when I deep throat till he cums. I cum from doing it if he holds my head down and shoves all of it in then holds my head. These feelings caused me to experience orgasims regardless of whether I was praised or just used. I’m blessed/born with an overly eager powerful desire to please people happy and loving disposition despite overly open and nosey overbearing parents. I was a little bit long and lean but of normal height – weight. I have always had long very blond hair, boys, girls, adult males and females would say I’m very attractive. If you were to see me you would think so to, I looked like a young, beautiful, natural, California girl. I acted sweet cause I was. So I’m told by grownups, siblings high school friends, teachers of both sexes, that know me, you’re gorges. You look like a girl, have the body of a girl get whistled at like girls. Most every day I wore very-very short-shorts that were way too big for my slim waist. It looked like I was warring a miniskirt. I didn’t wear any underwear so the men yes men, and the boys could get a good look at my legs and my bare butt. The loose shorts also provided easy access for the vasaline I put up and on my butt hole in the morning before school. I did this every school day, going on for 3 yrs, cause I promised the ugliest, dumbest 8th grader, I think he was in the 8th grade all three yrs, that I would let him butt fuck me anytime he wanted. I felt sorry for him, he was so sweet to me and kind telling me how beautiful I was and how he loves me so much. He told everyone that his girlfriend is the best looking girl in both schools. We first met in the hallway going to lunch when I was in 3rd grade. Right there in front of half my class the horny thing, started kissing me sticking his tongue in my mouth, kissing my neck, had his hands all over me, up my shorts squeezing my butt, my boobless chest. Before I knew what was happening he lifted me up spread my legs, and my butt cheeks apart and had the tip of his dick up my butt! Soon it was all the way in wet from precum. My lunch buddy Cari who really was the prettiest girl in school was hitting him screaming for him to stop but he was so strong and had both arms rapped around me, nothing was going to stop him till he got what he wanted. I told her to stop don’t worry he made me feel soooo good please don’t make him stop! Look he’s making me cum. I lifted up my shorts and spred my legs so she could get a good clear up close view of what a thick hard cock looked like between my legs pumping in an out of me. She let out a “that’s gross!” Moving in closer to move my shorts out of the way and holding them so she could get a prolonged up close look. “Is that white stuff sperm cumming out of you every time he pumps? How does it feel? Does it feel good for you? Does it feel good for him? What does it feel like? Are you making him feel good too? How far up there can he go? Does he really think you’re his girlfriend? If you too take any longer we’re gonna miss lunch! OK take me to the lunch line I said. As he was holding me off the ground, I told Cari to walk in front of us so no one could see us fucking. Cari asked “Is that what fucking is? I think doing that in my pussy would feel better to me. It feels really good when I rub it. I really want to, it’s tingling right now” I put my hands on her shoulders, my cum squirting in the middle of her back and they walked down the hall. I kept cumming and he kept butt fucking me. Cari kept watch giving updates and showing a few friends what we were doing. Soon a small crowd of girls formed, some made mean remarks calling me a slut and a whore. After that I told him he had to hurry up and cum. Most of the crowd had to see this and moved in close as I spred my legs Cari held my shorts as he came in me. I had cum all over my butt and in my butt and running all the way down my legs Cari had it on her too. I told him we had to do this somewhere else tomorrow. For having such a low IQ he had lots of horny male and female friends he shared me with. By the way I was a boy that just looked like a girl.
I would definitely say semen fetish exists, both as a preference for that genre in pornography, but also as in actually being turned on by swallowing the stuff. I’m a bisexual guy and have swallowed mine regularly for a few years. I’m really turned on when doing it while on my back on a soft surface, legs over my head so I can shoot the cum straight in my mouth. I try and make my cum leak out with edging, so I continue to be turned on enough to swallow and not get the post-orgastic reluctance to do so. I love swallowing big, creamy mouthfuls of thick semen, and mostly enjoy my taste.
I am fairly sure I have a fluid fetish, semen included. I do not enjoy sex without fluids. There has to be fluids. I prefer the semen inside of me but that is not always an option so in those cases on me will do but shortly after i’ll be looking for someone to fill me. I love the feeling of being covered in fluids, urine, spit, semen and my own tears. I love feeling it run over me and trickle out of me. I don’t know why but it is a must have. I sometimes wish it weren’t.
I’m a straight female and I believe I have a semen fetish. I always watched porn involving eyaculation inside or on someone; the same goes for my sexual life. The thing is that I always thought every other woman liked semen to some point. This topic is really interesting and un explored. Thanks for the read.
This was interesting yet slightly a let down, I saw a post on fetlife from a woman wondering if a term existed for making a man cum on random objects, or the floor, tables etc and then shaming them for the mess they made. After about two hours of searching the depths of the Internet I come across this that basically tells me semen fetishes have hardly been documented and or studied. At least I can quit searching.
Can you call me ? im pretty hot and have not only a semen fetish but produce copious amounts of semen in like 8 waves. Many ex GF would say to do porn where I just step in for the semen shooting scenes, lol tempting fantasy but not me. Anyway I think we should attempt to make contact considering our similar interests would creat fantastic results in the end 😉 203fourfour eight seven five o 9
Reminds me of a book Dream HUnter by Ramona Fern. The main character has a predilection and ability to continuously ejaculate.
“Semen addiction is not the pleasure of having your lover swallow your semen following oral sex, nor is it simple pleasure from pornography involving it. Instead, it is a very real sexual necessity for semen, be it digestion, foreplay or a combination of both. Why those who crave semen do so is widely a mystery”. I was surprised to read the above, particularly in a blog that belongs to a scholar in Psychology. To me it’s clear that in the act of having a man shoot his load (by another man) has nothing to do with sex but power. There is great excitement in using personal skills in causing another man to reach orgasm and produce a load or semen (the larger the better, may I add) even if the person procuring the skill doesn’t get “anything in return” as it’s often the case. Particularly amongst gay and bisexual men who will not engage in any other sexual activity with other men apart from oral sex. In a sense it’s the reward obtained after the job (“the below job”) and a job well done, that is, often hiding personal inadequacies. It occurs to me that these people so obsessed with other guys semen are incapable of a stable relationship with another man, but maybe that’s just me.
I have been obsessed with semen since the first time I had a guy cum in my mouth. I have been sucking and swallowing since my first boyfriend in High School. Even if it tastes bad I still crave that moment when the guy releases and fills my mouth. Most of the time I let the cum stay in my mouth for as long as I can savoring the taste before I swallow.
I know no other women that enjoy this as much as I do. Most just do it because they have to. Single women do it to get and keep a guy, married women do it hardly ever. One lady I know said she has not sucked her husband since their wedding night and they have been married for ten years. Truth is I bet he is still getting someone to suck it, men seem to need that feeling of being dominant.
I personally suck my husband a lot. Not only do I love the taste but in the back of my mind I know, if I don’t some other women (or guy) will. And men are not like women, oral is not foreplay to men. To men having a woman suck them is proof that she loves him and wants to please him. That she can be submissive to him and he can be the man.
Another words if you have not got it yet. SUCK YOUR MAN”S DICK. Suck it until he cums then swallow. Then thank him. Tell him whenever he wants it no matter you will do it. I have an agreement with mine that no matter if we have been fighting or what. He says the word and I will do it. And he has, we had a major fight last month and I was about to storm out when he said our safe words. The ones we agreed meant I would take care of it.
I was so angry I was ready to cry and hurl something at him and it took everything in me to get on my knees to my man. By the time he came I had forgot about being angry.
For me, it’s that a cumshot is a physical orgasm.
It’s an orgasm you can see, taste, feel, smell… you can consume it… digest it… make it part of your being.
A certain percentage of the proteins, lipids, amino acids, and trace minerals that make up my body come from jizz. Pure fuck spunk. The higher the percentage, the happier I’ll be. Sex on legs baby. A walking cumshot.
What self respecting whore wouldn’t want to be that?
I’m not interested in spit or piss or shit, or, well… anything else because they aren’t sexual fluids. THAT’S about humiliation and degradation. As a for instance, I love dirty talk, not insulting talk. Sadly most men have no idea there’s a difference between a whore/slut, and a piece of shit that deserves abuse. Yes, I’m a whore, and a slut. Damn right. I’m not, however a bitch, or cunt, or ‘just a filthy…’ anything. I’m many things all at once.
Hardcore, dirty, messy, kinky sex isn’t abusive or degrading in my book… So long as basic respect is there, and all parties are wholeheartedly consenting.
Would you treat a male ‘Playah’ like he wasn’t worth shit? No, you’d pat him on the back! Whores should get the same ‘good for you!’ accolades, dammit.
That said: Sperm is a sexual fluid… sperm is about sex.
It is also not mistakable for reproduction. It’s all about being a slutty little cumwhore. It’s a purely deviant act. Done for perversion’s sake, not procreation. It makes me feel like a whore, like a sex crazed maniac. I like to know it is on my skin, in my mouth… that I can swallow a beer can full and not puke on my own shoes. That takes real dedication and training in the real world.
Sperm tastes ‘bad’ because it is extremely alkaline (to combat the acidic environment of the vagina), and it reacts with the stomach acid.. and expands. Your body needs to learn to adjust for it. The taste is certainly acquired.. and if you want to be ‘that girl’, you do develop a taste for it. Like coffee, or hard liquor or cigarettes and pot… nobody likes it at first, but you learn to appreciate a good load when you get one. It becomes a delicacy.
Mostly, I love that people watch me doing it… they KNOW, when I walk down the street. When a fan recognizes me in the street, I literally soak my panties (provided I’ve worn any that day).They try to see if they can smell it on me. They look to see if there’s any in my hair… “There’s that girl I told you about…” I like knowing they know.
Now you know too.
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