Nappy talk: A beginner’s guide to diaper fetishes
In a previous blog I examined paraphilic infantilism (i.e., individuals who get sexually aroused from being an adult baby). Of those who enjoy being adult babies, it appears that many of them fetishize particular aspects such as lactophiles who are sexually aroused by being wet-nursed. Others may be sexually aroused by urinating themselves, defecating themselves, being spanked, and/or just getting very messy (and therefore may have other sexually paraphilic interests such as urophilia, coprophilia, masochism, and/or salirophilia). Another aspect that may be fetishized by the paraphilic infantilist is the wearing of diapers (or nappies as we prefer to call them here in the UK). It could also be argued that diaper fetishism is a sub-type of garment fetishism. For instance, Dr. Aggrawal in his 2009 book Forensic and Medico-legal Aspects of Sexual Crimes and Unusual Sexual Practices noted that:
“Garment fetishes revolve around, or fixate on, a particular type of garment. Common examples are shoes, stockings, diapers, gloves, underwear and bras. The affected person is fixated on the specific garment to such an extent that it exists as an exclusive or recurrent stimulus for sexual gratification”.
In a previous blog on fetishism more generally, I wrote at length about a study led by Dr G. Scorolli (University of Bologna, Italy) on the relative prevalence of different fetishes using online fetish forum data. It was estimated (very conservatively in the authors’ opinion), that their sample size comprised at least 5000 fetishists (but was likely to be a lot more). Their results showed that there were 483 diaper fetishists (less than 1% of all fetishists). This suggests that while not the most popular type of fetishistic behaviour, it certainly exists. Again in Dr. Aggrawal’s book he reported a case study that had been published in a 2005 Turkish psychiatric journal:
“Oguz and Uygurdescribe a case of diaper fetishism in a 22-year old man. His mother was psychologically distant from him. The fetish object (the diaper) was recognized during childhood at around the age of four. The patient exhibited his first perverted behavior when he was six. At twelve the perverted behavior became sexually arousing. During puberty, the fetish object became sexually attractive. Later, the patient could control this behavior”.
However, prior to this case study, there were a number of published papers concerning males with diaper fetishes. In an early (1964) issue of the American Journal of Psychiatry, Tuchman and Lachman reported the case of a man who continually wore rubber pants over his diaper and enjoyed urinating and masturbating while wearing it. In another case reported in the same journal a couple of years later, Malitz reported the case of a 20-year-old college student who had a compulsion to wear diapers underneath rubber pants and defecate in them. While defecating he would typically reach orgasm even if he didn’t masturbate (and suggests that he also had coprophilic tendencies). In 1967, Dinello (again in the American Journal of Psychiatry) reported the case of a 17-year-old male who in his mid-teens started wearing diapers under his clothing, and masturbated while wearing the diaper. He eventually, gave up wearing nappies and began dressing in women’s clothing. In a 1980 issue of the Medical Journal of Australia, Pettit and Barr published the case of 24-year-old man who began dressing in female clothes at the age of 10 years and by the age of 15 years began to dress as a baby and developed a fetish for nappies.
More recently (2003) in the American Journal of Psychiatry, Dr Jennifer Pate and Dr Glenn Gabbard reported the case of a 35-year-old single man who began wearing diapers for sexual pleasure from the age of 17 years. It was reported that the wearing of diapers had begun to compromise his personal relationships. He admitted that the wearing of diapers was “a kind of a sexual thing” and like the aforementioned cases, he enjoyed masturbating while wearing the diapers (in fact, the only time he masturbated was when he was wearing the diaper). He wore and used up to five nappies a day as he would always urinate and/or defecate in them. Pate and Gabbard concluded that the object of sexual arousal was the diapers and that the behaviour was a paraphilia.
In 2004, Croarkin and colleagues reported a case (yet again) in the American Journal of Psychiatry of a 32-year-old male who gained his sexual arousal from wearing diapers. In a 2003 paper by Dr. Gregory Lehne and Professor John Money, they described the case of a man who showed “multiplex paraphilia” over a lifetime including paraphilic infantilism and diaper fetish. They reported that:.
“At age 7 [years] the subject was dressed in public as a girl wearing a diaper as a humiliation for bed-wetting. This experience had 3 paraphilic components that were separately manifested at different times in his life: fetishistic transvestism, pedophilic incest, and infantilism…At age 45 [years] he reported a sudden recurrence of paraphilic preoccupation. He did not engage in cross-dressing, but he had become involved in sexual fantasies and more frequent and adventuresome sexual relations with his wife. The main fantasy that was emerging was being an ‘adult baby’. He described the main fantasy and associated activity: I enjoy ‘living as a baby whenever I have an opportunity. I love to lie in a diaper, powder myself and pin myself in tightly. I then slip on my rubber pants and prepare for bed’. The experience of wearing and wetting in a diaper is the focus of this fantasy and behavior. He would use a nursing bottle to drink infant formula, and then wet in his diapers, change the diapers and later fall asleep. He engages in this activity about once or twice a week, sleeping in a baby bedroom apart from his wife on these nights. He described the experience as sexual, with a feeling of tremendous calm and satisfaction during these activities, but no genital arousal or ejaculation. He read and wrote fantasy stories about infantilism, in the course of which he would become aroused and masturbate. This practice of infantilism has continued as his paraphilic activity for 20 years”.
Unfortunately, nothing is known about the incidence or prevalence of diaper fetishes, and there is no consensus on the etiology but has been linked to maladaptive learning in childhood, faulty childhood imprinting, and erotic targeting errors. The case studies, while similar, are relatively rarely reported in the clinical literature and there is no way of knowing how representative these case study examples are.
Dr Mark Griffiths, Professor of Gambling Studies, International Gaming Research Unit, Nottingham Trent University, Nottingham, UK
Aggrawal A. (2009). Forensic and Medico-legal Aspects of Sexual Crimes and Unusual Sexual Practices. Boca Raton: CRC Press.
Croarkin, P., Nam, T., & Waldrep, D. (2004). Comment on adult baby syndrome. American Journal of Psychiatry, 161, 2141.
Dinello, F.A. (1967). Stages of treatment in the case of a diaper-wearing seventeen-year-old male. American Journal of Psychiatry, 124, 94-96.
Lehne, G. K. & Money, J. (2003). Multiplex versus multiple taxonomy of paraphilia: Case example. Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment, 15, 61-72.
Malitz, S (1966). Another report on the wearing of diapers and rubber pants by an adult male. American Journal of Psychiatry, 122, 1435-1437.
Oguz N, Uygur N. (2005). [A case of diaper fetishism]. Turk Psikiyatri Derg, 16,133-138.
Pate, J. & Gabbard, J.O. (2003). Adult baby syndrome. American Journal of Psychiatry, 160, 1932-1936.
Scorolli, C., Ghirlanda, S., Enquist, M., Zattoni, S. & Jannini, E.A. (2007). Relative prevalence of different fetishes. International Journal of Impotence Research, 19, 432-437.
Tuchman, W.W. & Lachman, J.H. (1964). An unusual perversion: the wearing of diapers and rubber pants in a 29-year-old male. American Journal of Psychiatry, 120, 1198-1199
Posted on December 4, 2012, in Case Studies, Compulsion, Obsession, Paraphilia, Psychological disorders, Psychology, Sex, Sex addiction and tagged Clothing fetish, Coprophilia, Diaper fetishism, Garment fetish, Infantilism, Lactophilia, Nappy fetish, Salirophilia, Sexual fetish, Sexual paraphilia, Urophilia. Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.
I Love to wear nappies & I love having nappy sex & i love getting my butt spanked.
Hello. I’m a DL. I enjoy to wear diapers and plastic pants with diapers. I feel very comfortable.
Main reason of wearing is not sexual cause. I recomend to have a look to http://www.abkindom.com, to have a diferent point of view.
And… have you tried to wear a good diaper? While you sleep, or read a book,…for example? or maybe… with your wife (with all due respect)?
Yes, it seems to me that people who like to wear diapers and rubber pants more than if it is assumed. I myself wear them and even use from the age of 9. I thank my mother, who was so far-sighted and wise, that did not prevent me from doing, but rather supported me, bought me everything associated with wearing diapers and took me the way I am! In the future, this trend toward virtualization company certainly expand. It is an excellent remedy for stress, discharge of sexual tension, diversification stereotype marital sex to relax, calm the mind and caress the soul. Regression to the time a child is a wonderful thing, and who does not experience this can never understand these people.
My fetish is getting spanked and being a little baby at any cost I just want to very sustive to sujestive to any thing like being treated like a slave for sex or whatever.
I’ve got this fetish too. Ever since as early as I can remember I have been fascinated by plastic, bedwetting, nappies and so on. I actually don’t recall feeling guilty about this. I rationalised that somewhere else on earth someone was probably like me. I knew even as a young kid that this was not socially acceptable and so I knew to keep it secret which I basically did.
Then I got married and made the biggest mistake of my life. I tod my wife about my fetish. She thinks I am Brocken, sick, damaged.
The frustrating thing for me is that I would love to sit and talk honestly with someone about this.
Perhaps although a paraphilia perhaps it can also be linked to OCD
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as those cases I have studied they tell me that these urges no matter how much they try to rid themselves of this paraphilia /fetish these urges to wear such apparel come back even stronger and that they feel that itis easier to give into these urges .
I also found that some just wear for relaxation and it helps them get a better sleep!.
Although this phenomenon is not only a male thing women also have these desires as well but women are more reluctent or maybe reserved about broadcasting their liking for wearing nappies and plastic pants
And as there has never been any surveys done into the wearing
of nappies and plastic pants by female and male research needs to be done in this area! I have come to the conclusion that those who do indulge in wearing are no danger to children !. Even though society are
If they do become aware of someone wearing such apparel as nappies and plastic pants for purely recreational purposes may look on that individual with indifference and fear!. I would like too research into the womens side to compare how it effects them! .It is noted that those whom I had contact with felt that it started much earlier than puberty .
I would value Marks views on what I have spoken about